Welcome to our pen pals section. It’s a little corner of the world where you can look for new friends with like-minded interests. For further info on how it works, check out our how to place a pen pal advert and how to reply to pen pals section below each letter.


envelope with letter iconPen pal number 286


envelope with letter iconPen pal number 287


envelope with letter iconPen pal number 288


envelope with letter iconPen pal number 289


envelope with letter iconPen pal number 290


envelope with letter iconPen pal number 291


All you need to do is send your advert along with your name and address (and email address if you want) to the Spectrum. You can use the Royal Mail or email. The next pen-pal number will be attached to your advert when it arrives.

Please note that the Spectrum does not print dating adverts, as it is unable to provide suitable support.

Those under the age of sixteen must have parental permission before placing a pen-pal advertisment in the Spectrum. 

If you get no replies, please don't take this personally.

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Pen pal number 286

Hi, let’s just call me MrsS, as I have an uncommon name that will be too recognisable.

I’m 33, and I have been diagnosed as being on the spectrum at 32, after a lifetime of not understanding how I work and being a source of frustration to parents, peers and boyfriends! I think I am on the high- functioning side of the spectrum and I work as a scientist in a pharmaceutical company, where the work is brilliant, but it is a chore dealing with colleagues and bosses — a challenge many of us face.

I live with my partner and my cat, and one very lonely aspect of my life is not being able to make any friends. I think I come across as too intense and too invested and it probably chases people off. I’m quite misunderstood: I say the wrong things, crave for space once I have established a relationship — all the classic things autistic people do.

I’d like to have a friend, of any age, male or female, who is understanding about my thought process and wouldn’t mind discussing how normal people work and how I can navigate my life around them.

My interests: I do a lot of Reddit reading, I’m currently doing an advanced degree in engineering, I love cats and I cook very well. My obsessions span days, months or years, and have ranged from North Korea to Harry Potter and Star Wars.

It would be great if I can start writing old fashioned letters over post/email again!

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Pen pal number 287

Hi, my name is Sue and I’m 52 (but still young at heart ;o). I’ve recently been diagnosed with Asperger syndrome. What triggered me to seek a diagnosis was watching a recent TV programme, Chris Packham: Asperger’s and me.

Throughout my life I’ve wondered why I’ve been different to my friends and family members and I struggled throughout my school days and my jobs. Following voluntary redundancy I am now a lady of leisure.

My interests are animals, adult dot-to-dot books (I love the repetition and I find it therapeutic), reading, and watching films (horrors in general), and have recently acquired an allotment.

I like to do activities that aren’t group-related like snorkelling (although I don’t very often get the opportunity to do it) and walking my dog.

I don’t drive so recently I have acquired a bus pass, which is brilliant.

I would love to hear from fellow, like-minded “Aspergions” as I don’t know anyone else with the condition.

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Pen pal number 288

Sally here. I’m aged 59 and was recently diagnosed with Asperger’s. I also suffer with anxiety and depression. I go for walks every day to help agoraphobia, which fluctuates between days. My interests are writing, making dolls, history, embroidery and art, among other things. I live with my partner but have no friends or social life, but now I have a diagnosis, I’d like to change that. I also have bad social anxiety. I’d like to hear from others aged 50 to 70 also diagnosed with Asperger’s, for friendship, and to know how they cope. I have a very good sense of humour, and like phone-in radio programmes, documentaries and reading practical books. Paper letters, please.

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Pen pal number 289

My name is Carlotta. I’m 15 years old and I live in Scotland. I’m currently in high school, and I was diagnosed when I was 11.

I have been feeling very lonely for a while now, as I can’t seem to be able to make any friends at school and don’t really have anyone outside of school to talk to.

My interests are reading manga, watching anime, writing stories, listening to music (specifically music from the 60s, 70s, 80s and 90s), watching videos on and learning about criminals and mysteries, and Voltron legendary defender.

I’m hoping to be contacted by people around the same age as me, who share similar interests to me and are also struggling to make friends.

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Pen pal number 290

Hi everyone, my name is Jade, I’m 21 and I live in England. I have dyspraxia, ADHD and am under assessment for autism. I find it very difficult to make friends so I feel really alone. I enjoy gaming, football, documentaries and music. I support Wolverhampton Wanderers, and my favourite band are The 1975. I’d like to hear from someone around the same age and start making friends!

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Pen pal number 291

Hi, my name is Naomi and I didn’t get diagnosed till I was in my 20s. I want to chat to other people who have gone through similar struggles.

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