Welcome to our pen pals section. It’s a little corner of the world where you can look for new friends with like-minded interests. For further info on how it works, check out our how to place a pen pal advert and how to reply to pen pals section below each letter.


open envelope icon with letter Pen pal number 315


open envelope icon with letter Pen pal number 316


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open envelope icon with letter Pen pal number 318


open envelope icon with letter Pen pal number 319


open envelope icon with letter Pen pal number 320


All you need to do is send your advert along with your name and address (and email address if you want) to the Spectrum. You can use the Royal Mail or email. The next pen pal number will be attached to your advert when it arrives.

Due to the coronavirus pandemic, we will not be able to pick up pen pal letters via the Royal Mail, so please use email instead. We understand you may be feeling anxious, worried or uncertain about the current situation. To help support you, we've put together a selection of tips, resources and contact information, which you can access here. 

Please note that the Spectrum does not print dating adverts, as it is unable to provide suitable support.

Those under the age of sixteen must have parental permission before placing a pen pal advertisment in the Spectrum. 

If you get no replies, please don't take this personally.

Our pen pal waiting list

We receive a high number of pen pal adverts. So if you place an advert with us, you may often have to wait until the next issue for your advert to be published. This applies to the website and the printed magazine, as we like to keep content consistent. We apologise for any stress or anxiety that this may cause, but please don't worry. We haven't forgotten you.

21 pen pal adverts have been held over for publication in the next four issues.

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Pen pal number 315

Hi! My name is Dakota. I am a transgender mother of a teenage daughter. We live in an apartment in Ontario, Canada.

I am very shy, and lonely, but also very friendly. Because it is so difficult for me to make conversation and socialize, I am extremely lonely and have no friends.

My interests are varied and flexible so I’m willing to learn about anything that interests you. I am 52 years old and, after leaving an abusive marriage, my daughter and I support one another.





Pen pal number 316

Dear Sir or Madam,

I am writing to ask if you can help me. My son and I are on the spectrum. I am very isolated, and would like to get in touch with other people: having a pen pal would be good for me as I have always felt isolated and that causes depression. Could you please help me with this? Thank you.

Yours sincerely,

C Seeckts



Pen pal number 317

Dear Sirs,

My name is Tiegan and I live in Bristol and I am in residential accommodation.

I have been diagnosed with autism.

I would be interested in finding pen pals.

I am 32 years old and my interests are bike riding, walking, music, cooking, socialising, shopping.

I like animals.

I have recently been helping with the homeless in Bristol.

Please can you reply in writing?




Pen pal number 318

Hi, my name is Marty, and I have recently been diagnosed with ASD/Asperger’s at age 49. It came as somewhat of a relief, as an explanation of the difficulties I’ve struggled with all my life.

I’m happy to hear from anyone, male or female, of any age really, to chat about ASD issues or anything else that we find interesting :)

My interests include science in general, astronomy and cosmology in particular, movies, video games, most sports, but particularly motorsport, cricket and rugby — just watching, not participating. I like to read — I read a lot from the Star Wars universe at the moment, but also Marvel comics, I’ve also read quite a lot of horror and fantasy fiction.

I enjoy learning new things - I’ve recently started the second year of my second Open University degree.



Pen pal number 319

Hi: my name is Adrian. I am a 61-yearold educated white male living near Bedford (originally from London): I have been unemployed for many years and was finally confirmed with Asperger’s syndrome only in 2015.

I do like meeting friendly new people but individually or in very small groups and on the whole really dislike crowds (especially crowded pubs as I am not much of a drinker!). Like many people on the spectrum I do suffer from frequent anxiety and depression.

I suppose I have a big issue with sensitivity as I do feel that I am over-sensitive which I think is a particular problem for a male: unfortunately I get hurt very easily. I try to treat other people with consideration but often feel that this is not reciprocated.

Anyway, with regard to my interests, I am interested in most things and will discuss anything but am particularly interested in astrology, which has been almost a life-long interest for me.

Best wishes!



Pen pal number 320


I am a 36-year-old male, living in Cornwall, just looking for more friends.

I have been diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome and find life and love difficult and struggle with many social issues.

It would be helpful to talk to others in the same situation in a confidential non-judgmental manner and hopefully make more friends.

Do get in touch,

Lots of love, Peter