Siblings will need time away from their brother or sister, time away from the home and one-to-one time with their parents. Having a brother or sister with autism sometimes means missing out on usual family activities such cinema trips or days out at the beach. It could be that you are able to take your grandchild's siblings on day trips like this, or perhaps you can look after your grandchild with autism so that their sibling has a bit of time with their parents.
"My daughter has to compromise so much. I try to treat them equally, but it's difficult because the whole family revolves around [child's name]. It's easier to go with the flow than fight against it."
Parent of a child with autism
Siblings sometimes need a place where they can keep their toys and personal possessions without having to worry that they may be broken. If putting a lock on their bedroom door is not an option, perhaps they could keep some of their special possessions at your house where they know they will be kept safe.
Involving siblings in behaviour strategies can help them to feel included. For example, they could have a responsibility for taking photos or drawing pictures that you will use on visual supports, such as timetables, for your grandchild with autism.
There are books written for siblings which help to explain autism. See the 'Recommended reading' section below for some suggestions.
There is an area on our website for siblings: www.autism.org.uk/siblingsinfo
Our Autism Helpline can send you a copy of our information sheet Families: supporting brothers and sisters (also available to download from www.autism.org.uk/a-z).
There are also a number of online forums where siblings can share their feelings and coping strategies with others in the same situation as them. Visit www.autism.org.uk/linkslibrary
Local groups often run sibling support groups or youth groups. Find out if there is a group in your area by searching our Autism Services Directory or telephoning our Autism Helpline.